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3 Reasons You Lost Friends When You Got Married

I’d be lying if I said that I haven’t been tip-toeing around this post for quite some time. Partly because I know a topic like losing friends can be almost like salt in the wound for some, and also partly because I’ve been trying to navigate it myself. But the more that I have talked to friends who have gotten married young, the more that a roaring response comes rolling in that shouts, “Yes, I lost friends, too! And I thought I was the only one!” Sweet friend, let me tell you – you aren’t the only one who lost friends when you got married. I did too. And you know what? It’s okay.

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December Update

Be still my heart. Y’all – December. I LOVE December! And I could not be happier that it is here. (But somehow I’m already getting the post-Christmas, how-is-it-all-already-over blues in anticipation. Does that happen to anyone else? Haha!) I love the festive heart behind December – the gift buying, the making of all things beautiful, the quality time with people I love, and the opportunity to re-center my heart on the gospel.

December is my jam.

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5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Marrying Young

Starting Off Young

My husband and I were both 21-years-old when we got married. He pursued my friendship and heart for 5 years, we dated for 3 months, we were engaged for 6 months, and we have been so overjoyed with the gift that marriage has been to us since then. We went from the speed of molasses to a whirlwind in no time flat, and it was altogether perfect for us. I was afraid of marrying young, but I felt such a peace about it.

Our decision to get married was something that we both prayed about, talked hour and hours and hours about, fasted about, and sought godly counsel about. We found so much confirmation that we were following the right path, and felt such a peace in our hearts that this was the direction we were to take. And you know what? It’s been absolutely awesome!

My husband is my best friend, my greatest supporter, a strong foundation for our family, a pillar of character and integrity, a hard-working provider, a man with a heart after God, and a servant-hearted and compassionate soul. He is the bomb diggity, and I’m totally smitten with him!
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 14)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

His Ways Are Higher

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9)

Today is the final day of this two-week daily devotional and I have so beyond grateful that you’ve been willing to walk through it with me. I really felt like God placed this on my heart because I had been going through a season of about two months of feeling as though I had fallen into a pit I couldn’t get out of.
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 13)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

Taming a Wild Tongue

The tongue has the power of life and death,and those who love it will eat its fruit. (Proverbs 18:21)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)

The world was created with the words of our God speaking it into existence. In a single moment, as He commanded light to come forth, the expanse of our universe was instantly illuminated (Genesis 1-3). Life was brought forth by the words of His mouth and the breath of His lungs. His very Word is the living and breathing guide to our lives as we seek Him in it all (Hebrews 4:12). Jesus also knew the power of His words when Lazarus had passed away. After several days of his body lying in a tomb, Jesus approached it and commanded that “Lazarus come forth!” (John 11:38-44).
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 12)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

Freedom from Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy. – Theodore Roosevelt

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10)

Yesterday we prayed and talked about God showing us the aspects of our life that we need Him to change in order to unrush us. We prayed that He would remind us of our priority in Him and that He would lead us to His peace in a busy culture. Today, going hand in hand with that, it is important that we talk about the subject of comparison.
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 11)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

Battling Busyness

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matthew 11:28-29)

When was the last time that you allowed yourself to rest? Really, intentionally, honestly rest?

Our society has begun to so greatly glorify a life of busyness. Our days can so easily become scrambled with meetings, classes, work, and social obligations. If we spend one Friday night sitting at home when we know that the rest of the world supposedly isn’t then we feel less than, uninvited, or inadequate.
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 10)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” (Romans 8:14-15)

I believe that one of the greatest threats to our peace that we can face in life is the temptation to believe that we can earn grace.
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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 9)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

Love the Giver, Not Just the Gifts

Delight yourselves in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)

What does it mean to delight yourself in the Lord?

The easy answer that my human mind wants to go to is delighting in the joy of walking with Him because all goes well. Of course, we can delight in someone who gives us good gifts! Absolutely we can find delight in someone who brings a smile to our face with their provision.

But is that what it really means?

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THE GRATEFUL HEART (DAY 14)

The Grateful Heart is a two-week long devotional series dedicated to guiding women towards finding a grateful heart during difficult seasons of life and equipping them with the tools they need to take back their joy.

His Ways Are Higher

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9)

Today is the final day of this two-week daily devotional and I have so beyond grateful that you’ve been willing to walk through it with me. I really felt like God placed this on my heart because I had been going through a season of about two months of feeling as though I had fallen into a pit I couldn’t get out of.

I was struggling to find joy or thankfulness in any aspect of my life and felt like anything that I thought would finally bring relief just kept getting postponed. I felt alone, like I was losing sight of hope, and like I was having a hard time finding God’s voice in it. Through seeking Him together, I feel like He has all given us something new.

The Hope of Winter

Two of my favorite things in the world only happen twice a year. I love the very first snowflake that I see stick to the ground in the beginnings of winter, and I love the very first green blade of grass in spring that I see standing up amongst its sleeping brothers. I love the first snowflake because I know the warmth and the welcome of the holidays and what that will bring, and I love the first blade of grass because I live for the sunshine and basking in it.

One season brings about letting go of your natural surroundings and finding refuge in the fireplaces, the scarves, the hot cups of coffee nestled in-between palms and the warm embrace of people around you. The other season is an invitation to suddenly remember the beauty of a living and breathing world around you, and it brings about an excitement for adventure and freedom to roam and flourish.

One season is to celebrate gratitude and thanksgiving for what we have been given. Another is to find joy in the promise of new life.

Did you know that winter is an absolutely essential and very productive season? It is a season that gets rid of what isn’t needed, it evacuates of what is unnecessary and it prepares for an awakening that is bolder and brighter than the year before.

It is a time to prepare. A time to let go. A time to dig roots deeper.

If you began this devotional with me because you felt a stirring in your heart in the promise of pushing past obstacles and overcoming a difficult season or a quiet season, I hope that this path we have walked together for a bit has helped you to know that you’re not alone. I hope that it has helped you to draw near to the heart of your Father and to have eyes that are a bit more open to His love active and at work around and within you. A spring season will always precede the cold winter.

I hope that by seeking Him out, you see that He is the God who hears. His ways are higher than what we can see.

As it draws to a close, I want us to pray this together:

Jesus, our hearts can’t express enough gratitude for all that you have done. But more so, our hearts can’t express enough gratitude for all that you are. As we go through each day let us remember that your ways are higher. Let us remember that your love draws from a deeper well than we could ever fathom and that you use all things for our good.

Let us remember that eternity was set in our hearts to remind us of the hope that we can hold onto knowing that you were, are and always will be enough for us. Give us the wisdom to choose joy and to choose gratitude when all may seem lost and give us the passion and the courage to shine brightly for you.

Jesus, help us to be daughters that are brave. Let us be brave enough to know that even in a season when all may seem to be lifeless or dry or bitter, that you are growing our roots deeper in you and helping us to let go of what you know we don’t need. Let our hearts trust ever more fully in your Word, in your promise, and in the gift you freely gave to us that you have called us yours.

We love you, Lord.

As the rain and snow come down from heaven and stay upon the ground to water the earth, and cause the grain to grow and to produce seed for the farmer and bread for the hungry, so also is my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It shall accomplish all I want it to and prosper everywhere I send it. (Isaiah 55:10-11)

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